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The Spiritual Entrepreneur’s Guide to Setting High Ideals

Last week, we focused on identifying our life’s purpose. This week, we concentrate on setting high ideals. From the Spiritual Entrepreneur’s perspective, we want to set our ideals in alignment with Spirit (or the Universe).

Let’s begin with a definition of ideals. As a noun, the word ideal refers to a person or thing that you regard as perfect. For example, you might say of someone you love, “You’re my ideal of how a man (or woman) should be.” Other words that can be substituted for the word ideal include: perfection, paragon, epitome, shining example.

When I first read this chapter in Bruce McArthur’s Your Life, I felt immediate resistance to the idea of perfection. How many people live highly unsatisfying lives attempting to live up to some unrealistic standard? In fact, when I first read through the chapter, I remembered a meme someone posted about women who insist upon “waiting for Mr. Right.”Setting High Ideals

The last thing I want to become in my business is the person for whom nothing is ever good enough.

A Holistic Approach to Working With High Ideals

McArthur says, “One of the most important steps in beginning to transform your life is to establish your ideals, then work diligently to achieve them. Your ideals set standards for you, and they are excellent guides for choices which can transform your life.”

Let me tell you why this matters:

Ideals provide a guide for changing our thinking. In the absence of an ideal, we show up for life as the person we have always been, which means we end up with the same stuff we’ve always gotten.

To build a new life and a better business, we have to change the way we routinely think and feel every day. Otherwise, as we continue along the same thought and feeling patterns we’ve always had, we create the same sets of circumstances that we wish to be free of.

By definition, our ideal will always be greater than we are today because it’s an ideal. The way we avoid the quest for perfection and adopt a holistic approach to setting high ideals is to stop reaching for the ideal. Instead, we must learn to think and act from that high place in consciousness.

Sound like semantics? Maybe. But go with me a for a second.

Everything in your business — the way you acquire new business, the way you send out invoices, how you respond to setbacks and challenges, the people you interact with on a daily basis — continually remind you of where you are in business. And, you…we…tend to think equal to our present circumstances. Unless we adopt a better way of thinking, we can expect to keep the same circumstances in play.

Only when we endeavor to think better than our present circumstances can we expect better results.

Everyone Has a Set of Ideals that Guide Them

Listen to what McArthur says ideals do for you:

  1. Your ideals are the standard by which you make your choices. They are like a road map which you use to guide you to your destination.
  2. Your ideals set the attitudes by which you live.
  3. Your ideals determine the path and the direction in which you are moving in consciousness.
  4. Your ideals determine what and whom you attract to you as you put them into effect.
  5. Your ideals provide the balancing tie among, body, mind, and soul. Through them you coordinate the Spirit within, the mind, and your physical aspects.

Now, you may not know what set of ideals you are working from. But, in reality, everyone has ideals. Today, we will take time to consciously set ideals for the major areas in our lives. Join me tonight for the Bible Hangout for a LIVE demonstration of the material covered in today’s blog post.

Setting High Ideals Takes You Off Cruise Control

For many people, their ideals are equal to or lower than their present circumstances. When they speak about their lives, they talk about being on cruise control or perhaps being in a rut. Thinking and acting from a set of high ideals takes you off cruise control and pulls you out of any rut you may find yourself in.

A high ideal will help you change your mindset, which, of course, can shift your life for the better. Very often in our businesses, we hit a wall and do not know which way to go. Or, we have multiple directions that we can take and each direction seems equally good. Ideals act as a guide for those kinds of decisions.

When you carry high ideals you can be a positive influence on the people around you. I think about the spiritual ideal that Rev. Della held for herself and represented for our church. I remember when she daringly took on CBS to demand the same pay that the other stars of Touched By An Angel were receiving. Guided by her ideals, she took a stand for what she believed was right and ultimately received the level of money that she felt she was worth.

Here’s an example from a wonderful book I just read of letting someone with a higher ideal challenge you to come out of your comfort zone:

The thing about comfort zones…if you live in one for too long, that becomes your norm.” David Goggins

A Gentle Approach to Setting High Ideals

No, you do not have to have a Navy SEAL move in with you to raise your ideals a little higher. 🙂

McArthur offers a much more, shall we say, measured approach to establishing high ideals. And, it’s the one we will use for our conversation tonight during the Bible Hangout.

Rev. Sherri Note: All the material that follows is copied directly from Chapter 16 in Bruce McArthur’s Your Life: Why It Is the Way It Is. You will need multiple copies of the Blank Circular Ideals Chart. You will also need a pen or pencil to complete the chart as we go.

Step #1 Selection of Your Area of Focus

A. Select from the following list an area of your life that you would like to make more joyous or choose one of your own:

  • Spouse
  • Self
  • Children
  • Job
  • Finances
  • Health
  • Spiritual Growth
  • A Relative
  • Recreation
  • Social Life
  • Family
  • Time
  • School
  • Church
  • Education
Circular Ideals Chart

Circular Ideals Chart with Quadrant #1 Filled In

B. When you have selected the area, write it on the Circular Ideals Chart on the line marked #1 in Quadrant A (see image).

C. Your ideals for this area of your life will be entered on this upper right-hand quadrant of the chart.

Step #2: Selection of Your Spiritual Ideal

A. Study the following “fruits” or “seeds” of the Spirit, any one of which would make an excellent spiritual ideal:

  • Love
  • Truth
  • Hope
  • Persistence
  • Patience
  • Faith
  • Goodness
  • Contentment
  • Mercy
  • Gentleness
  • Kindness
  • Self-control
  • Brotherly love
  • Fellowship
  • Consistency in Acts and Speech
  • Forgiveness
  • Meekness
  • Peace
  • Obedience
  • Humbleness
  • Harmony
  • Understanding
  • Selflessness
  • Joy

B. To make your selection, use either option 1 or 2 below — whichever feels right to you:Circular Ideals Chart

Option 1. After a period of meditation, turn inward and search in your mind for the most joyous, fulfilling spiritual experience you have ever known. This might have been a conversation with someone, a dream, a vision, something you have read that was meaningful to you, or another form of experience. Review it in your mind, trying to experience its essence, and describe it in one word or short phrase. This will be your spiritual ideal. Write it on the Circular Ideals Chart in the center circle labeled SPIRITUAL IDEAL (see example).

Option 2. To select your spiritual ideal, attune yourself in whatever way works best for you and use your preferred method of obtaining guidance. Ask what your ideal should be, or select from the list above. When you have found or selected it, write it on the Circular Ideals Chart in the center circle labeled SPIRITUAL IDEAL (see example).

Step #3: Selection of Mental Ideals

A. The mental ideal you are about to select is for application in that area of your life that you wish to make more joyous. This is the area your selected in Step 1 and marked on line #1.

B. The mental ideal is a “be”-attitude, the attitude you will hold in this area of your life. It needs to be in accord with your spiritual ideal. It is as if the spiritual ideal actually flows into the mental attitudes or emotions and together they produce the mental ideal.

C. Therefore, ask yourself: “What ‘be-attitude,’ what attitude of ‘be’-ing, should I hold and use that is in accord with my spiritual ideal and will make this area of my life joyous?”

Some possible suggestions:

  • BE-loving
  • BE-self-controlled
  • BE-hopeful
  • BE-gentle
  • BE-brotherly love
  • BE-persistent
  • BE-kind
  • BE-merciful
  • BE-truthful
  • BE-content
  • BE-positive
  • BE-good
  • BE-joyous
  • BE-meek
  • BE-peaceful
  • BE-humble
  • BE-confident
  • BE-trustful
  • BE-one
  • Circular Ideals ChartBE-understanding
  • BE-appreciative
  • BE-harmonious
  • BE-constructive
  • BE-generous (giving)
  • BE-encouraging
  • BE-happy
  • BE-moderate
  • BE-sincere
  • BE-compassionate
  • BE-temperate
  • BE-faithful
  • BE-selfless
  • BE-thoughtful
  • BE-tolerant
  • BE-cooperative
  • BE-forgiving
  • BE-disciplined
  • BE-honest
  • BE-a servant
  • BE-just
  • BE-graceful

D. You may wish to select more than one of the above or ones of your own choosing. Enter your choices on the ideals chart in the section of the circle in Quadrant A marked MENTAL IDEALS (see example).

Step #4: Selection of Physical Ideals

A. Your physical ideals are what you will be “do”-ing to bring into expression/manifestation on the physical plane the spiritual and mental ideals you have set for this area of your life.

B. The physical ideals can be expressed through the ways in which you use various aspects of your physical body or your possessions. For example, ask yourself, “How can I use my ears to manifest my mental ideal of being cooperative?” Your answer might be: “Listen to Jane.” That would then be one of your physical ideals. You may wish to select several for each area of your life.

  • Ears
  • Eyes
  • Nose
  • Mouth
  • Car
  • Money
  • Voice
  • Sharing know-how
  • Sharing possessions
  • Sharing facilities
  • Furniture
  • Recipes
  • Clothes
  • Energy
  • Legs
  • Feet
  • Hands
  • House
  • Face
  • ToolsCircular Ideals Chart
  • Food
  • Sex
  • Words
  • Song
  • Time
  • Arms
  • Effort

C. As you make your selections, write them in the section of the circle marked PHYSICAL IDEALS in Quadrant A.

Step #5: Completion of Ideals Chart

Return to Step 1 and select another area of your life you wish to make more joyous. Enter this on line #2 in Quadrant B.

Skip Step #2 — The spiritual ideal you have selected applies to all areas of your life.

Do Step 3 and Step 4 for this same area of your life.

Repeat this procedure for as many areas of your life for which you wish to set ideals.

To be effective you need to review your ideals daily, to make them a part of your consciousness. Work with each, trying to achieve it. As you achieve each ideal, you will need to change or modify it. Your ideals should grow with you.

A Tip for Setting High Ideals That Help You Break the Habit of Being You

I borrow that heading from Dr. Joe Dispenza’s groundbreaking book, Breaking the Habit of Being You. He explains the value of high ideals this way:

If you want to change, you must have in your thoughts an idealized self — a model that you can emulate, which is different from, and better than, the “you” that exists today in your particular environment, body, and time. Every great person in history knew to do this…

The only way out of where you are is to break the habit of showing up the way you have always shown up. Establishing high ideals gives you the best chance of re-wiring your consciousness and establishing a new you.

This kind of work is not easy because it’s far more comfortable to slip into old habits of being. To avoid this tendency, I recommend putting yourself around people who embody the kinds of ideals you want to express. In this way, you force yourself to stand, as Lisa Nichols says, “on your tippy toes.”

You can do that in person. Find someone who is giving and living at the level you want to and do what you can to be next to them. You can do that remotely. With technology, you can lovingly stalk anyone and observe the way they do things. And, you can do that in a book or via audio or video. I have many “dead heroes.” In fact, I was just remarking to Jon Miller (As a Man Thinketh The Movie) that I need a 24-hour return visit from Zig Ziglar and Rev. Ike. I didn’t know much about them when they were alive and they didn’t hit my radar for personal study until after they’d made their respective transitions.

What’s Your New High Ideal?

Now it’s your turn. Download the sheet and choose an area for Quadrant #1 to work on. In the comments, let me know what area you chose and what spiritual, mental and physical ideals you’re reaching for in that area of your life. Be as specific as possible. You never know whom you might inspire with your comment.

A Testimony for The Money Poems

“I experienced how The Money Poems work one day while cooking dinner. I’d just started reciting my poems two days prior, when our internet went out at the house.

My mother had gotten out of the hospital a few weeks prior. Since my parents are retired, the hospital stay altered their monthly income. Basically, things were tight and my father needed an extra week to pay the full amount.

He called to get an extension and reconnection of services. The customer service representative told him there was nothing that could be done until the full amount was paid.

When my dad told me what was said, I encouraged him to call back. I also suggested my mother be with him on the phone for the second call.

As my parents sat in the home office waiting to speak to a representative for the second time, I completed dinner and picked up my copy of The Money Poems. I began reciting, softly, the poem of the day, which was Wednesday. I would recite the poem and go back to reading the book.

Once I heard them on the phone with the new representative and his supervisor, I continuously recited the Wednesday poem. I was relaxed and smiling every time I recited the poem. Once I felt completely at ease, I stopped and continued to read the book.

When my parents completed their phone call, they informed me that the supervisor saw they’d never been disconnected before and agreed to turn on the internet service within the hour. I smiled to myself and announced dinner was ready.”

~ Dee Johnson (Houston, TX)

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